As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.
Much as the death toll of WWI caused a shortage of marriageable men in the 1920s, today’s widening gender gap in college enrollment has created unequal numbers in the post-college dating pool.
“We were only about 100 miles apart, so we were able to see each other on weekends and over the summers, but what happened was because there was so much against us in the beginning, we did try to date other people, and split up," Gee said.
"Our parents insisted that we make sure that we looked at other people, to make sure this relationship would be a strong one.
Six in 10 acquaintance rapes on college campuses occur in dating relationships.
That’s why preventing nonsexual partner violence is often approached in the same manner as preventing sexual assault on college campuses, said Lisa Maatz, vice president of government relations at the American Association of University Women.
Of college students who have been sexually assaulted, 35 percent of them were assaulted while on a date.Students carrying over high school relationships into college may be bucking the odds, but it hasn’t stopped them from trying.Of all college relationships, nearly 33 percent are long-distance, according to an i Village survey. If you’re out of college, think about your Facebook friends: How many are still together with — or even married to — their high school sweethearts?In fact, many prevention methods for sexual assault, she said, are based on methods previously created for preventing domestic abuse. “When we’re talking about sexual assault, we’re basically talking about violence against women.And attempting to prevent that is a holistic approach that starts with sexual harassment and goes through sexual assault and even murder.