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Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family.

Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father's quick brown eyes and my yellow hair.

I was the one who adamantly declared that I would never marry out.

Not because my parents were against it; they didn’t need to tell me because my traditional Jewish upbringing and day-school education were my safeguards.

Another factor behind the comparatively high Jewish intermarriage rate is, simply, that Americans like Jews.

Riley cites the work of sociologists Robert Putnam and David Campbell, who measured the popularity of various religious groups with extensive surveys for their 2010 book, “American Grace: How Religion Divides and Unites Us.”“America, for the most part, loves its Jews,” agreed Paul Golin, the associate executive director of the Jewish Outreach Institute.

“It doesn’t mean that anti-Semitism is over, but there’s much more philo-Semitism than anti-Semitism in America.”Riley says intermarriage is both a cause and effect of this phenomenon.

They aren’t doing that now, according to Riley, and the American Jewish intermarriage rate is about 50 percent.I was so connected to my Jewish identity that my betrayal of it was not even statistically probable. I stopped socializing with them in silent protest, after a more outspoken effort had failed.I self-righteously concluded that we had nothing in common, since they were prepared to give their Jewish identity the backseat.(I guess there are more non-Jews out there.) Are they wrong for treating me this way, or am I? Hillary in Atlanta Our answer begins with a question you must answer. This has nothing to do with how religiously observant you are; it has to do with how you define yourself in terms of your history, your culture, your spiritual beliefs and your relationship to God.We see that you feel a connection to Judaism from the fact that you clicked onto this website!